So, what is so special about my loving Malen and her loving me? What is special about our relationship? Well, of course there are the basic things like physical attraction, having fun together, and sharing affection. There is also the next level – we are of like mind about the important things like family, honesty, and general relationship behavior. We make each other laugh, agree on almost everything, and are very similar people. I always heard that opposites attract, but I always suspected that opposites make bad relationships. No to sound narcissistic, but the closer to yourself your partner (in morals, ideals, behavior, and personality), the better the relationship will be. That may sound boring, but “attraction” only get people together. Similarities are what keep them together.
But with Malen and I, there is an even higher level – complete trust and absolutely no doubts. It is wonderful to be 100% secure in the person you love and in your relationship. Doubts about a relationship you are in do not have to come from your partner – they can also come from yourself. I have never been in a relationship where I NEVER even consider that it might not work out, and believe me, my logical mind thinks about EVERYTHING in the known universe. When you know exactly where you came from, and exactly where you both agree you are going, there is no energy wasted on wondering or doubting.
When we joke with each other about other people, it is just funny – there are no nagging thoughts or doubts in the back of our minds. If I get a little testy from time to time, it does no damage whatsoever to our relationship because Malen knows it has nothing to do with her or how I feel about her. We have an amazing level of trust, compatibility, and being secure with each other. It is as if we have indeed become a single unit. And, THAT is what is so special about our love.